Holidays are seldom restful for caregivers. Supports like schools and community centers are closed, the ones in our care can be upset by disrupted routines, and our instinctive savoring of “time off” crashes into extra hours of greater demand.
The need to pace ourselves and embrace our reality is acute. Family care giving is not contained between punches of a workplace clock and seldom gives the satisfaction of “done.”
Memorial Day provides a long weekend.
The long Memorial Day weekend honors those who died in combat. As one hears at funerals, they rest from their labors.
The long weekend indulges the living who have the freedom to travel, party or just be couch potatoes for a bit.
For family caregivers, it’s just long.
If you have a care giving family on your block, they might not be able to come to the park or even the party in the next yard.
But you might knock on the door just the same to drop off a plate of barbecued goodness and with your kindness make the weekend a little less long on their end.