Just caught a short, brutally honest article from the perspective of caring for a person with dementia or Alzheimer’s.
In Caregivers Are Only Human, Rick Phelps writes,
Everyone loses their temper once in a while. People say things to each other that they don’t mean under far less stressful situations. Caregivers are under an incredible amount of pressure, and they are not immune to letting their emotions get the best of them. Dementia adds yet another challenge to the mix.
There are several comments at the article that are worth reading as well.
In Raising a Child With Autism, I describe an ice storm that clobbered our town a few years ago. The aftermath of that mess serves as an image for caregiver breakdown,
Sometimes physically, but more often emotionally, caregivers sag like ice-burdened trees. We wonder if our groaning means we’re bending with the effort or if it’s the prelude to falling down.
All relationships – not just care giving situations – can take us to our limits and show us at our worst. As author Anne Kennedy reminds us with a recurring chapter heading in her book for “angry or worn out people,” You Still Can’t Do It.
Which is why care giving or just plain ol’ family life can be the door to discovering the unearned, undeserved favor of a loving and very patient God.