So here comes the obligatory New Year’s post. Although I think I neglected the compulsory Christmas post so I’ll cram them together.
Joey begins perseverating about Christmas presents – aka movies on VHS – in the summer. We get mad and try to make him change the subject; Melissa makes him dictate a written list so at least some constructive interaction takes place; our eyes roll back in our heads…
Then Christmas day comes, we wake him up for breakfast and presents, show him his loot ‘neath the tree, and he says…
and goes back to his room.
We eventually prevail upon him to open the gifts, which he does with grumpy histrionics before again retreating to his room without them.
Eventually, over several days, he begins watching his long desired movies and seems happy.
Well, this year we resolved (see that New Year’s hook?) to try a new approach, which was no approach at all. We simply let him ignore the presents to see where his thought process would take him. We offered them to him and then left them under the tree and waited.
Our older son and his wife flew in for the holiday, and we exchanged gifts with them a few nights after Christmas. Joey seemed to get into the second gathering and opened his presents then.
Hypotheses include a) he wanted his brother there, although he did the whole “NO” schtick throughout the years his brother lived at home; b) he doesn’t want Christmas to come to a crashing end but wants to sustain the gift getting pleasure; c) oh, hell, I have no idea.
Here it is New Year’s Eve-day and I’m sitting here yelling at him to turn down the volume on the movies, which he’s enjoying.
I’m not big into resolutions. But here’s a favorite scene that reminds me to be open to change, to quit pounding my head against autism or any other wall…
May 2017 bring you blessings, especially freedom from old ruts. May you have divine favor upon all that you offer.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (2 Corinthians 5:17 ESV)