Yesterday Melissa (Mom) attended Joey (son with autism)’s annual planning meeting at his community agency.
The staff and she encountered several of the ways he keeps people from making him work, which is to say, asking him to do anything that his mind does not want to engage at the moment.
As it was Friday, Melissa asked him an easy question, What are you having for breakfast tomorrow? Joey knows full well that Tim (dad) always gets him a Saturday morning donut. He knows when it’s Friday and he anticipates this. So he said,
That is his blow-off answer to any food question.
Joey, what did you have for lunch today?
What treats do you want in your Christmas stocking?
Parents of neurotypical teens will recognize this:
What did you do at school today?
Joey uses chicken for breakfast the way others’ teens use nothing happened at school.
Not all people with autism play this game, but for Joey it is a persistent way of enforcing personal boundaries. Or of creating an ad campaign that made him a bunch of money that he’s not sharing with us: