Our older son and his fiancee are in town. Yesterday we were at a tuxedo selection and fitting for the wedding party guys, including dad.
It was fun to connect with the groomsmen and a couple of the ladies who came along. After the fitting, which went like clockwork, we all went out to Buffalo Wild Wings for late lunch/early dinner.
OK, so what’s the sex business in the title?
Well, the things that made the day go so well all fell under the category of, “Hey, Joey’s not here!”
So much of care giving is like parenting little kids, trying to sneak in sex in the few moments when you are absolutely, positively sure they won’t be walking in on you. For care givers, the game continues way past the few years that young parents have to navigate. And I’m not just talking about sex – I’m talking about anything enjoyable.
The tux fitting was laid back fun because Joey wasn’t there.
The trip out to eat was fun because Joey wasn’t there.*
Real, pack up and go away vacations are on hold until Joey isn’t here.
Many social engagements get wiped off the calendar (if they ever make it on in the first place) because Joey’s still here.
We love Joey. We want only the best for him and there are plenty of moments every day when we delight in being with him. But he can be like a toddler who’s been here for almost 20 years. Every little pleasure we enjoy is squeezed into margins defined by Joey. It’s all like sex, see what I mean?
*Beer, chicken wings and sports on a big screen TV counts as sex, right?