Our autistic son did some kind of magic on his computer. “Blue screen of death” magic.
We have a friend named Monte who is an I.T. kind of guy. He has the computer at his house seeing if he can bring it back for Joey to do more magic. Monte and his wife were a couple of Joey’s handpicked guests at his 19th birthday party.
What is very special about this chain of events is the way in which Joey is responding.
“Normally” (geez, can we use such a word around here?), the removal of the computer, or VCR, or any other Joey favorite leads to agitation, which can lead to seizures. Years ago, he became violent when a computer froze and I couldn’t fix the problem.
This time, all we have to say is, “The computer is at Monte’s house. Monte is fixing the computer.”
And Joey just smiles back and says, “Mr. Monte will fix the computer.”
Monte is the right person for the job, not just because he’s an I.T. geek, but because he’s someone who gets Joey and who Joey likes in return.
People who can bond with a special needs person are worth their weight in gold to care givers, too. The “job” isn’t just fixing stuff – it’s being a figure of trust, warmth and other precious levels of connection that special needs often cause to crash, like an old overworked computer.