Balancing the scales

Today’s first text (Melissa -> Tim):

Did something happen this morning? Joey almost didn’t get on the bus. Hope they get there OK.

Second text of the day (Melissa -> Tim):

He was really angry.

Every so often we bump into one of those studies that say, “You have to pay X number of compliments to outweigh one negative comment.” Don’t know how much real science goes into those, but we can see some common sense application in the realm of care giving.

Care giving creates so many emergencies, almost emergencies, might-be-emergencies, remember-that-last-emergencies, etc. that a negative tone can pervade even a decent day. It’s a balance issue. The negative news outweighs the positive.

Yeah, OK it should be one of these hanging scales of justice to really make sense.  Nobody has those.  So here's a postal scale.  Deal with it.

Yeah, OK it should be one of those hanging scales of justice to really make sense. Nobody has those. So here’s a postal scale. Deal with it.

Any of you have some practical ways to balance the scales?

The Lutherans who rule the Northern Plains have a fun program called Stepping Stones. We (borrowed/stole/whatever churches do with other churches’ stuff) the program and really like some of the family prayer practices suggested, especially taking time each night to share the “highs and lows” of the day. “Lows” tend to cling in our minds, so there’s a good practical point to identifying and dwelling on “highs.” We let them go too easily unless we make up our minds to hold and celebrate them.

When we met, one of Melissa’s disciplines was to think of five things for which to be thankful at the end of each day. That’s another good scale balancer.

So, others? How can we counter balance all the “bad news” that a typical day of care giving can create?

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