ABCDEFGHIJail

One of my jobs (like a house full of kids, I know they’re all there but can’t keep track of them) had some customer service training the other night. It included a Myers Briggs personality test for each person in the department.

This particular test yields a four letter code describing a person’s natural and preferred ways of relating to the world. I’m not going to try and unpack it all here, as there are all kinds of letter combinations describing all kinds of people. I think I scored something like INFJ. Or LMNOP or something.

It’s enough for me to tell you that Myers Briggs, like other personality assessments I’ve taken for this, that and the other job, accurately shows me to be something of an introvert, refreshed by quiet, private time, preferring to think things through rather than just jump in and do, and much in favor of order over chaos. I like patterns and big ideas over micro details.

Yes, cue the laugh track. I’ve let my life become anything but… well… my life.

Quality quiet time is out the window. When I’m alone I usually give in to emotional exhaustion rather than enjoy the space. I spend most of my time reacting to others and handling the tasks and chores assigned me. It starts when the dog pokes at me to take her outside well before the morning alarm goes off, and pretty much keeps up until I sit in a stupor and fall asleep in the evening. The in between affords little time for big ideas; it’s mostly the kind of detailed chores that I enjoy about as much as our autistic kid enjoys using his fine motor skills (hint – he won’t hold a pencil).

No skateboarding.  Take off your belt for the metal detector.  Etc.

No skateboarding. Take off your belt for the metal detector. Etc.

Melissa isn’t in a place to blog right now, and I hope I don’t misrepresent her here – but I’m 99% sure that her Myers Briggs would show an extrovert, enjoying active time with lots of people. Exactly what her condition prevents. Her life isn’t her life, either.

It’s way too early on a Saturday morning. I can’t sleep and I’m sitting here talking out loud on the keyboard, trying to get at the stress and maybe purge a bit of it.

Whatever one’s personality type, illness and care giving can create a jail-like environment, locking one into a lifestyle deprived of natural preferences and behaviors while forcing submission to unwanted and uncomfortable routines.

6 thoughts on “ABCDEFGHIJail

  1. Ah, Meyers-Briggs…the pop culture crystal ball that will sort out all your personnel and human resource problems. Most people are horrified to learn that it relies heavily on Jung’s studies that he conducted while he was Nazi doing personality experiments.

  2. Whatever one’s personality type, illness and care giving can create a jail-like environment, locking one into a lifestyle deprived of natural preferences and behaviors while forcing submission to unwanted and uncomfortable routines.

    I was just trying to explain this to someone the other day. I don’t think she got it.

  3. Hey! I know this is kind of off-topic however I had to ask.
    Does operating a well-established blog like yours take a lot of work?
    I am completely new to running a blog but I do write in my journal everyday.
    I’d like to start a blog so I will be able to share my personal experience and feelings online. Please let me know if you have any kind of ideas or tips for brand new aspiring bloggers. Appreciate it!

    • You need to have a niche. Unless you are some unique adventurer, blogging from the top of Everest, journal entries alone won’t get much interest.

      Focus on some specific aspect of who you are. Career, field of study, an illness or other challenge you face, the place where you live, etc.

      Post with some regularity, two or three days per week at least. Don’t let your blog look like an untended bulletin board with old, yellow, out of date stuff hanging there.

      We often fail to observe this, but try to keep your posts to 350 words or less. In blogging, short is better.

      Use pictures, videos and other visual stuff, but don’t make them a fetish. Only use what amplifies your words. If you are a photographer or artist of some kind, do feature your stuff.

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